Alcohol addiction affects everyone in the family unit. Often, a family member is the first one to recognize addiction and seek help for their loved one. The Friary can help. We recognize that loved ones also are living with addiction and are a part of the recovery process. We understand that challenging issues are at the root of alcohol or drug abuse and your loved one also may be experiencing depression, anxiety, trauma, chronic pain or family relationship difficulties. Our educational and therapeutic programs encourage all family members to participate so that everyone has an opportunity to talk about these issues and learn how to overcome, grow and successfully problem-solve together.
You may not know where to start so we've provided these first steps that you can take if you think a friend or family member may have a drinking problem:
Accept that alcohol abuse and dependence are treatable illnesses.
Seek help from local community resources such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon and Alateen, as well as mental health clinics, therapists, clergy, doctors, and social workers who understand alcohol addiction. Don't let pride or fear block your efforts to get help for yourself and your loved one.
Use the resources. Encourage your loved one to get help, but remember the only person you can change is yourself. Don't hesitate to use the resources to help yourself.
Don't make excuses for the drinker. Family members often try to protect a loved one from the consequences of alcohol abuse by making excuses to others.
Time any interventions. Talk with the drinker shortly after an alcohol-related problem has occurred. Choose a time when he or she is sober, you are both calm and you can speak privately.
Be specific. Express your concern to your loved one and that you support him or her in getting help. Support your concern with examples of how alcohol abuse has caused problems for both of you, including the most recent incident.
Seek out the people and resources that can support you. Keep in mind you are not alone. There is hope and practical help available in your local community.
Avoid putting yourself in danger by arguing, accusing, lecturing or threatening the abuser.